First Date: Check

So, we kept on chatting. A lot. He told me where he works and as it happens, I know one of his colleagues so of course I contacted her immediately to ask her about him. She gave him her highest recommendation, said he was a really nice guy, sweet and easy going, and encouraged me to go on a date with him. Which I did.

We went out for dinner mid-week, at a cosy Italian place. Nothing too formal or overly romantic, very relaxed atmosphere. Jonathan turned out to be no monster at all, a little too thin for my taste perhaps but healthy looking and presentable. The conversation over dinner was very entertaining and I discovered to my delight that he‘s one of few who‘s familiar with my favourite musician, Neil Finn! He sure scored a few points there.

The weather was so lovely that after dinner we popped round to his place to collect his dog and went for a walk with it. It was all so casual and relaxed, didn‘t really feel like a date. In fact, I didn‘t have any butterflies or sense any fireworks. BUT...that‘s what usually gets me into trouble with men so I definitely think it‘s worth giving this one a chance. Besides, he‘s around my age and I really should try to associate more with those, it‘s not like all the older ones have proved to be so great.

So, I‘m determined to see him again. And he wants to. Unfortunately, he went out of town for a week, but we stay in touch via text messages, quite lively ones too.

Simply must tell you about some of the messages I‘m still receiving through the dating site. Yet another 18 year old wrote and said he really wants to experience being with an older woman! He then described himself in some detail, stating he has a 7.1 inch penis!!! Out of curiosity I did think about it for a few seconds, but he blew his chances by referring to me as an older woman.

The same day, I received a message from a 52 year old who stated both there and in his profile description that he only wanted younger women. I didn‘t even reply to him and got into a really bad mood after reading that.

Why is it that one man so desperately wants to meet a woman 20 years younger than him, without having a clue what she looks like, what sort of a person she is or whether she‘s intelligent enough, mature enough or funny enough to be compatible to him? Meanwhile, other men just can‘t get pass an age gap of 15 years, 13 years, even just 10 years, despite having gotten to know me very intimately? I‘m beginning to seriously wonder about that excuse of theirs...