Picking up where I left off, I must say it’s a little disappointing how many messages my Ms Naughty gets. ‘She’ receives about 100 messages while I only get 20 (whereof half is from pervs). I obviously didn’t tick the right box!
However, when I look at the ads of some of those guys, they themselves have usually just ticked the ‘Friendship’ and ‘Dating’ boxes. One of them even describes himself like this:
Just looking to see if there’s anyone out there I can chat with. I’m not sure what to write here other than I’m quiet and polite and not looking for a one-night-stand.
Many of these ads are similar; they just seem to be nice, quiet guys looking for a nice girl to talk to and then to see where that leads. But the messages they send to Ms Naughty reveal a much different side to them, a much naughtier side to be honest. I wouldn’t dream of repeating some of that stuff here, I’d probably be breaking some law!
It really doesn’t bother me that people look for casual sex, whether it’s on the Internet or elsewhere. I couldn’t care less. What bothers me is how many men out there are pretending to be something other than they are. If sex is all they’re thinking about getting, they should just say so, there are plenty of women out there thinking exactly the same ‘cause we like sex too!
But those of us who advertise under ‘Dating’ and ‘Friendship’ are doing so exactly because we’re looking for something more, or other, than sex. And when I emphasise that I can’t be bothered with any bullshit, I mean exactly that and can be quite ruthless if someone tries to waste my time. I don’t want married men and I don’t want to start talking dirty as soon as we’ve said ‘Hi’ to each other.
Stubbornly, I continued going through my messages, answering those I thought might be worth the effort. Lines such as: ‘School of life has been my greates education’ don’t really work with me and ‘I have my own business’ doesn’t necessarily mean the guy is a successful business man (turned out to have an ice cream vendor).
I almost laughed when I found messages from two boys around twenty, one said he’d ‘always fantasised about sleeping with an older woman’ and the other said he wanted an experienced woman to deflower him. I don’t recall my ad saying anything about me having had loads of sex thus being extremely experienced in that area!
Eventually, I came across a message from a 37 year old psychologist, working in the police force. I replied and soon we’d started exchanging numerous messages. He’s a single dad, has a ten year old boy, likes the outdoors, doesn’t party much and is the quiet type. Is interested in literature so we’ve had plenty to talk about.
And because I think it’s silly to keep writing someone without having seen him, without knowing if there’s any possible chemistry there in real life, I suggested we’d meet up soon. In a café, after work later this week, nothing formal, just so that we could see each other and decide whether we want to continue corresponding.
And...he’s up for it, thinks it’s a great idea! So, I’m getting a little excited, I must admit.
