Thanks but No Thanks

Well, well, well, that was quick! 

Basically, I didn’t dare calling him, partly because his number wasn’t registered...and I didn’t know what to call him or how to introduce myself. I think he muttered his first name when we met but I didn’t quite get it. Embarrassing, I know. Anyway, I just decided to send him a message and say I too wanted to see him again. I would however be really busy this week but since I had plans to go out on Saturday night, maybe we could meet up then? He liked that plan. 

So, last night we were chatting online and discussing our Saturday night plans. While I was talking to him, I decided to check my fake ad on the dating site, just for fun. Maybe also, just to be sure that he hadn’t messaged ‘her’, even though I was confident he wouldn’t be the type, not such a reserved, shy guy. So I logged in and browsed through the new messages in ‘her’ inbox, about 80 of them this time. They were from nicks such as ‘Sex_Now’, ‘Sexstarved’ and ‘STALLION’. It was pretty obvious why those guys had signed up. My guy certainly wasn’t there for that. Or was he?

And sure enough, there, way down in the queue was his nick, no doubt about it. I had a closer look at the date; he had sent ‘her’ a message a few days before. In fact, he had sent it the SAME DAY he met up with me at the café! I opened the message and looked even closer. He had sent ‘her’, a woman looking for casual sex, a message only FOUR HOURS after we’d said goodbye. 

Right, on Friday night he had logged in and offered a total stranger his ‘service’, probably inspired by our conversation about how easy it would be to find sexual partners there! I'm a genius.

I didn’t really have to think twice. Am I interested in a man who seeks casual sex on the Internet? No. Does it look like I made a great impression on him if he was looking for casual sex only four hours later? No. Do I want to work that hard at trying to make someone like me enough so that he'll stop browsing for sex on the Internet? No. Is it likely this was the only time he’s ever replied to a sex ad on the Internet? Not really. 

So, I blocked him from the chat and sent him a short message saying I wasn’t interested in getting to know him any further. And that I didn’t mean to judge him but personally, I wasn’t interested in men who replied to sex ads on this site. That’s just how I feel. I think it says a lot about a man’s personality and frankly, I like slightly different types of personalities.

He replied, pretending to not know what I was on about. Then tried to make it sound as if I was a lunatic; running a number of personal ads on the website and getting crazy jealous because he corresponded with other women there after meeting me. ‘Well, excuse me but I didn’t realize we were being exclusive after meeting up for one cup of coffee!’ 

I didn’t answer. I just blocked him and went to the cinema with my good friend Sophie. We bad-mouthed men quite a bit and decided to go out tomorrow night with a few other girls.

I don’t really need time to get over this one so I’ll definitely keep my eyes open, you never know! And then I’m going to reply to some other guys on look4soulmate.com – I’m not going to give up just because a handful fuckwits get in the way!